Changing & Sharing Roles in Relationships: Adapting and Investing in Your Relationship

In a relationship or marriage, sharing roles / functions is as important as the change of roles / functions. Sharing roles makes both sides invest together; changing functions makes the two sides to adapt. If in a relationship / marriage, there is only one side (either the man or woman) that invests and adapts, well enjoy your broken heart and feel of unappreciated. Willingness to invest needs to be balanced with a willingness to adapt. If not, there will be compensation. For example, the man/woman is royal to invest in order to cover or compensate his/her laziness to adapt, or otherwise. It's bad! 

Women foolishness is in dating phase is that women tend to be passive. But they want a man who diligently treats her (invest) and SUPER nice (adapt). You can find man like that, but those entire nice attitudes TEND TO STOP AFTER you're in a relationship or marriage. If at the time of dating phase you are passive so that man alone who INVESTS & ADAPTS, do not complain if it stops when you’re in a relationship with him! Why women are often 'fooled' to be in a relationship with a man who 'changed'? Because the woman was PASSIVE and do not want to invest and adapt in time of dating. Ladies, if you are passive and require him to prove this and that in dating phase, you will find many men who PRETEND TO DO SO! What makes women feel manipulated? Because the woman asks a lot, want to be treated as whatever she likes! 

Invest and Adapt in Love

In dating time, doing investment and adaptation is easy. Examples of adaptation: if he has not contacted you yet or asked you out, just be the first to contact or ask him out. What is the big deal?! Investment example: have you ever treated your date? Or cooked simple meal? Or offered to accompany him shopping? Is it hard?! If you think it’s hard to do because of your prestige, just go marry your prestige. If there is inequality of investments and adaptation, only one side that constantly do it, just break up or divorce her/him. So, inequality of investment and adaptation in a relationship or marriage happens because of your HABITS when you were dating. Women think too much about prestige, the reason is claimed because of fear. Well, that’s not an excuse. Just be dead, so you do not need to over-think about your prestige and fear.  

Ladies and gentlemen, get used to balance investment and adaptation since the dating phase. So you can find the best mate! If you don’t balance investment and adaptation in dating phase, yes it will continue to your relationship or marriage! Mutual investment is simple really. For example: guy is willing to take his girl home, then the girl is willing to call guy to ask if he already gets home. Mutual adaptation?  Guy is willing to date near the girl’s house, then girl is willing to hang out with the guy’s friends.

Source: @lexdepraxis twitter account