Common Relationship Problems: Clingy Girlfriend & Insensitive Boyfriend

Boyfriend is ignoring his girlfriend

The biggest mistake of men in relationship is to assume that after he is already in a relationship, the struggle is over and he is lazy to create effort anymore. Actually it is not a mistake; it’s just a different perspective about relationships between men and women. Different focus and priorities. Guys need stability in relationship, so he can stay focused with his hobby or work without having to think about looking for a girl. Be able to work with focus, do hobbies, and know that his woman is always by his side. That is enough for men. For a guy, when he’s at home, it's okay if he's busy playing video game by his self and his girlfriend was busy watching a DVD. It's peaceful. That is why guys seem so cool, ignorant, or insensitive once he already in a relationship, but actually it means: “I'm already comfortable and stable with you.”

However, girls are different! In a relationship, women need to be maintained. They need to be given attention, to be jealous of, given affection, praised, and flattered, and so on. Girls need a little romance and drama; they want to see her boyfriend trying to please her. Just see him trying is enough to make her happy. If a girl came to his boyfriend house / place and he is busy playing games, girl will think: "Why am I ignored! Don’t you love me anymore?" Whereas, in guy’s mind: "The fact that you are here already makes me happy, now I want to play games in peace." Girl thinks: "Why are you playing games while I’m here?" | Guy thinks: "What the heck are you doing waiting for me playing games? Just do anything else." 

Girlfriend seems to ask a lot

Over time, the girl complained, the guy was offended because he didn’t do anything wrong. They start to fight. Blame each other. Girl feels that her boyfriend is insensitive to her needs. Guy feels that his girlfriend is clingy and too demanding is . It’s all because: they both do not understand the needs of their partner and what to do. 

So, what is the solution? Well, do negotiate with your partner and find win-win solution so that everyone is happy and pleased. Both girls and guys are equally selfish anyway, so they must compromise. 

Negotiation in relationship

Negotiations: if a guy was playing games, girl should look for other activities. Guys, if you've finished playing games, do not forget to give attention to your girl. The easiest way of negotiation is to make particular days to be special days for both of you, cannot be disturbed by anything. For example, a special Saturday-Sunday, boy should not play the game and work. Focus to your girlfriend. Show your effort again. On the other hand, girl should not complain anymore if your boyfriend already keeps his promise on this Saturday-Sunday. Appreciate his effort.

Source: @KeiSavourie twitter account